…Why? April 2, 2008
Posted by mirla in : Memories, Feelings, Musings , add a commentSo, I was browsing the web, then I came across this website that has advice on what to do when you are being bullied. Imeadiately this brings ups in my mind “It’s too bad I never had this kind of information” which sort of metamorphed into “Why didn’t I do this as a child?” (Which yes, I know has the obvious answer) in out of pure random of my emotions (because hey, I’m at their whim) I fall into a little bit of a depression. The question keep on asking me “Why didn’t I do this? Why did they tell me to just ignore them?” and a bit of advice for parents-
Telling a kid to “ignore” the bullies doesn’t work. It just wont. Kids don’t exactly have the emotional intelligence or maturity to simply “ignore” someone who is making them hurt, so OF COURSE they are going to react to a bully. It’s not a matter of self-restraint for a kid, it’s a matter of self-worth. Also, bullies almost NEVER bully someone just to see their reaction for their own ammusement, if you ignore them, they’ll just keep pressing harder and harder and harder until you break- instead of just getting bored and going away. From my expiriences, kids bully because of their underlying securities or they are lashing out because of a poor enviorment- wether or not little Jhonny cries after 5 minutes or 15 minutes isn’t going to change either cause. “Ignoring a bully and they’ll stop picking on you” is just about the WORST advice to give.
And yet, it was the only bit of advice that I’ve ever recieved. Infact, there were times when they said that where they almost made it out to be MY fault.
Flashbacks, flashbacks, flashbacks to those days, those moments in time, when nearly everyone hated me…. make me feel so sad. They make me feel sick. Why are children always so cruel?